Re: Door

I had a dream about an elevator last night. It was one of those freight elevators with a large sliding outer door, plus an expandable screen door. When I approached, the two doors were open and the elevator space was jammed with people as in a sardine can. There was no room for me, and there was no desire on the faces of the folks crammed together to make room either. I pondered that dream all day as I ventured through one type of portal after another.

In our city we have an old-fashioned elevator like the one in my dream. It was part of a marine museum that has closed down. A door on a travelling closet, what an idea! I think of Dr. Who’s Tardis or C.S.Lewis’s children’s series, The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe. In stage plays, the indoor scenes have doors leading our imaginations elsewhere: Walk through and the performers might find themselves out-of-doors. The original Wizard of Oz movie, had a scene that once made viewers gasp in delight as they were transported from black&white cinematography to full technicolour. Actress Gwenyth Paltrow, in the film Sliding Doors, plays a character who is confronted with the consequences of choosing (or not) to step into a subway car. Actors Robbie & Farrell go on A Big Bold Beautiful Journey through doors to their past, while taking us along for the ride.

They say the eyes are the doorway to a person’s soul. Cliché-wise that may be an open-and-shut case but I wonder if that makes the eyelids into doors of skin. Ewww! Scarier still, our eyes, held wide open, can suggest a vacancy as in, “You’re dead to me!” My favourite door is a castle’s portcullis, more like a vertical closing gate, but one which keeps out marauders while still giving a view of the countryside. Doorways are metaphorically about choices: We can hold a door for someone who follows, put our foot out to stop it from closing, or place a welcome mat at the doorstep as an invitation to all who have travelled thus far. It’s doubtful that anyone still carries their bride/groom/partner over the threshold of their abode after getting hitched. Although some still might mark their front door with symbols of protection or guidance. A boss may say his/her/their door is “always open.” But that begs the question of why there is even a door there in the first place.

I’ve always thought it would be cool to be an elevator doorman. I can imagine myself assisting folks as they navigate the vertical highway, “What floor please?”. Most folks want the elevator experience to be over as quickly as possible. They’ll engage with their cell phones or stare intently at the floor indicator over the door. When I was a condo superintendent I enjoyed the reaction I got when I asked fellow Otis riding travellers a few questions or made astute observations while on the way to the lobby. That’s me, always trying to open the door to conversation.

Re: Convey

The other night I dreamt of being on an airport conveyor belt. I was the luggage moving on an endless carousel. It was nothing like a giggly ride with a grandchild on an amusement park merry-go-round either: No hurdy-gurdy music in this dream. No Sir! No one came to pick me up and take me home. Eventually I was consigned to the ‘Lost’ kiosk. Woe was me.

I’ve been on many a conveyance in my lifetime, some taking me places that were familiar, others thrilling me with adventure as I anticipated a new destination at the trip’s terminus. The mode of transportation from A to B sometimes is the trip itself. I liked ski hill tow ropes in that way, getting to the top was a challenge and half the fun. The moving sidewalks in airports make me feel like a kid again, as do escalators. I’ve felt the power of the wind, propelling me forward, on sailboats and sailboards. There is joy and companionship found while riding on a horse’s back. I once felt euphoria as I gripped the dorsal fin of a dolphin and was conveyed from one end of a pool to another. Street cars in San Fransisco and Oslo, a small gauge train in Peru and subways in London and Toronto have all filled me with awe and gratitude that such things exist, seemingly just for me.

I wonder what subconscious message, in that piece of lost luggage, is being conveyed to me. The way that I communicate is equally as important as the words that I choose to use. When I talk intimately to my partner I trust that the message I want to convey is never in doubt. Yet, most of us can name an occasion when our words have not measured up to the feelings we have wished to express. Sometimes we can’t be blamed completely for mixed messages. The listener is also responsible for checking to see if the topic is still on track. Relationships can get derailed even among the best travelling partners when one person takes the toll road while the other takes the road less travelled. I’ve met couples who seem unable to convey their feelings in words, much like the characters Tevye & Golde from the classic musical ‘Fiddler on the Roof’. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_y9F5St4j0

Through word and especially action, we must convey to the people in our village what is most important to us. It’s risky business to let others see who we are. It may seem unnecessary to tell others how we feel about them. It’s easier to not engage,  But when I hold things in I don’t feel right. I feel like an opportunity to show who I am has been missed. Like that piece of luggage in my dream, I feel like I’m not being picked up, like I’m not important enough to matter.

When you share yourself with another, you are sharing a ride on a magic carpet. It’s a trip neither of you will ever forget.